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The new “nice” intimidation

So I’m on a kickball team.  Yes, that game you played with you were a kid with the big red ball and you run bases and hope no one takes out their aggression by torpedoing a ball at your running frame.

My position is the catcher.  It was told to me that this was a position to mess with the kickers head.

Now, I’ve never really been the kind of person to sling insults like a bride throws rice (where did i get that analogy from?)  But this got me thinking.  I’m a new age kinda gal.  Dawning of Aquarius type.  And I have a little bit of competitive bite buried deep under my layers of Namaste and Om Shanti Shanti Shanti.  But just how do I want that competitive nature to show itself? (My sweetie gets irritated because when he beats me in a game of cards I jump on his lap and congratulate him and tell him how well he did.  He always tells me I’m supposed to get mad and throw my cards down…that I was taking away from his glory.) (Devilish smile on my face blog readers…devilish.)

The answer came when I decided what kind of person I wanted to be.  Did I want to be the kind of person to tear someone down and create fear and make them mess up?  Or did I want to be the kind of person who is so hilarious that they miss the ball because they are laughing so hard they are crying?

And I thought about the implications for this kind of thought process on a larger scale.  Say for instance with international disputes.  Or bring it home a little more…with parenting?  It seems to me that if there can be just one person who stands up for the right to laugh one’s ass off…that the world would just be a better place.

So instead of menacing, I’ve been plotting my stand up act.  My insults range from jokes about SAT scores, to low-brow brow hilarious your mamma jokes.  I have the jokes in my back pocket that my step-father has been feeding me since I was a kid….there are some limericks that I’m sure will make the more timid completely miss the ball.

My point here is to just add to the ongoing dialogue about the small stuff, like world peace and all that by reminding you that you can be the change you want to see in the world simply by lightening up.  Go for the humor.  Go for the laughter.  Forget traditional forms of intimidation and see what happens if you just make some new friends.

I don’t know if we are going to win our first game tonight, but I do know I’m going to have some serious serious fun.